So you’re in a long-term relationship. It’s lost that heat, that passionate fire that once had you full of butterflies and perpetually DTF.
I know how it goes. You’re still wildly in love but the sex has become sort of predictable. You crave that pizzazz that once inspired spontaneous fucks on counter tops or carpet, rug burns and all. Since your partner feels the same, you both decide to try a sex toy between the sheets.
A week later, a box from Lyps arrives on your front porch in stealthy, discreet packaging — gotta love it. You and your partner look at each other with that nearly forgotten look of scorching lust and head for the bedroom.
Like any hot hookup, things go from 0 to 100 in about a second. You’re unsure of whether you undressed or ripped the box open faster. Candles lit? Check. Got the lube? Check…
But uh.. now what? You look back and forth between your new vibrator and your partner. The look on both of your faces says the exact same thing, what the fuck are we supposed to do with this thing?
Here we are to save the day. We know using a sex toy together is nothing like using it alone. You have to consider different anatomies and how to wedge that toy between two bodies. It can be confusing and awkward enough to extinguish that flame back to zero real quick.
Certain sex toys are more conducive for one position over another. For example, certain sex positions really enhance the sensations of a butt plug while others are better for a vibrator. It’s a formula, so to speak. And this article will make you quite the dirty mathematician.
If You’re Wondering About Which Toys To Use During Sex, You’re Off To A Good Start
Deciding to use a toy together is no easy feat. (And we’re talking about real sex toys, not homemade sex toys for couples.) The conversation is easily the biggest hump in the road. But once you overcome the obstacles you’ll realize using a toy together is no biggie. A lot of couples have already reached the same conclusion.
It’s realistic to assume that as sex toys normalize, our population is becoming increasingly sex-positive.
The most up-to-date research tells us that 53% of women and 51% of men have used a sex toy before. Of the woman who have used a toy, 78% were in a relationship. Of the men who have tried a toy, 60% have used a toy to please their female partner.
Let’s relish in the news that sex toy talk now applies to a majority of our culture. Especially since using sex toys has been linked to “health conscious behaviors.” It’s realistic to assume that as sex toys normalize, our population is becoming increasingly sex-positive.
But we still have a lot to learn. Like how to get the most pleasure out of our sex toys. Or how to use different types of sex toys in our favorite sex positions.
Easy for you, any sex toy can be considered a part of the sex toys for couples family. From male masturbators to pussy pumps — if you use it together, it’s a couples’ toy.
Guys, doggy-style is about to get even hotter. Girls, riding on top is about to feel even more pleasurable. Pay attention and take some notes, you don’t want to skip these sex tips for couples.
Sex Toy Positions For Your Vibrator
Hands down, a vibrator is the most popular sex toy for women. A woman’s battery-operated-boyfriend holds a special place in her heart. And using it during intercourse significantly improves her chance at orgasming.
But vibrators can be a little bulky, depending on the type. If you’re working with a Hitachi Magic Wand or the Lyps Rabbit Vibrator you have to get a bit strategic about your positioning.
You want the vibrator to have easy access to her clit. But you don’t just want to sandwich the vibrator between your bodies and proceed business as usual. She should be able to work the vibrator at different angles and have easy access to the toy’s different settings.
According to a wide-scale survey by Cosmo, 38% of women who don’t orgasm during intercourse aren’t getting enough clitoral stimulation. The point of using a vibrator during sex is to increase her clitoral stimulation so everybody goes to bed happy.
⚤ Legs Over His Shoulders Position
Listen up, girls: Lay on your back in a way that feels comfy. Make sure there is a pillow beneath your head so you can see all the action. As he situates himself between your thighs, extend your legs up his chest. If you’re super bendy your legs might be straight on his torso. If you’re in dire need for a yoga class or two, bend your knees as much as you need.
Once he is situated, grab your vibrator and go to town. You’ll have awesome range of motion to massage your clit at every angle.
Check it out, guys: As she adjusts her legs on your shoulders, scootch your hips closer to her pussy. Depending on your height, you may want to prop a couple pillows beneath her hips. If that doesn’t work you might have to physically lift her hips up to reach your cock.
Make sure you take the time to get comfy. Once you’re squared away, you’re only job is to thrust like you mean it. You get to see her whole body writhe as she pleases herself. Not a bad gig.
⚤ Classic Doggy Style
Everyone loves to do it like they do on the Discovery Channel. Doggy style is America’s second favorite sex position, although I’m surprised it’s not first. (Wondering what took the #1 spot? Keep reading.)
Guys love doggy style because it feels like they’re fucking their partner nice and deep. Plus, it’s a sweet view from the top.
But a lot of women love it too. Sometimes it just feels good to really get fucked, am I right? It’s just that realistically, a lot of women aren’t orgasming during doggy style. There’s no natural contact with the clitoris unless she’s using her hand.
Listen up, girls: This one really isn’t rocket science. Once you’re on all fours, he’s all set to saddle up. One helpful tip — spread your knees a bit wider. This way you’ll have extra space to work the vibrator around your clitoris and vulva.
If you want him to use the vibrator on you, you’ll have to adjust yourself differently. Do it close to a wall. Once he’s inside you, start to crawl your hands up the wall. Go slowly so that he doesn’t slip out of you.
You’ll be standing on your knees but leaning forward against the wall. He can easily reach the vibrator around to tickle your clit. Hooray hands-free orgasms!
Check it out, guys: When she’s using a vibrator in doggy style, make sure to be extra attentive to how she wants to be fucked. Whether you’re thrusting slow, fast, hard, or soft will have a huge impact on the kind of orgasm she has. So just ask how she wants it.
⚤ Sexy Spoon Position
Spoiler alert: Guys, you have to be the big spoon. Sorry.
Listen up, girls: I’m sure you two have already mastered the fine art of spooning. Assume the position. Once he’s inside of you, you’ll have to lift your top leg up a bit to have access to your clit. If you’ve ever tried this before then you’ll agree with me — it takes about 4.5 seconds for your inner thigh to start crying. That’s why he needs to hold your top leg up.
Once he’s holding your leg, reach your vibrator between your legs. Here’s where it gets tricky: the direction you’re both facing matters. You want your dominate hand on top so that using the vibrator is easy and you have more control.
Here’s a personal insight I’ll share with you. Once he has hold of your leg, shift your body so you’re almost laying on your back. (He’s still on his side.) This way the whole top of your body is exposed. He can tease your nipples with his tongue. The vibrator can more freely explore your clit and his scrotum.
If it sounds complicated, it’s not. You just need to get naked and try it on.
Check it out, guys: Once you’re spooning, starting thrusting. She’ll lift her top leg up so that she can massage her clit while you penetrate her. Use your top arm to hold up her leg. The easiest way is to hook your arm underneath her knee.
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